Welcome to part two of my interview with Zacchary Falconer-Barfield, founder and 1st Gentleman at London’s The Perfect Gentleman, an operation that seeks to make the world a more respectful, stylish, and gentlemanly place, one man at a time.
Zach and I talked about many things during our Skype interviews, including romance in the world of the gentleman. Perhaps this comes as shock to some of you because romance seems to be something sadly missing from our modern world – Tinder, digital pornography, and internet dating/hook-ups have taken care of that. At least in North America, we don’t make time for romance anymore, but we can pencil in a quick booty call which may momentarily satisfy our needs, but I think will ultimately leave us feeling empty and emotionally frustrated.
The term “romance” may seem old-fashioned to the modern reader, but it is romance that will win our hearts. In fact, The Perfect Gentleman insists that men learn how to romance a woman, to woo her, court her, prove his worth through respect, affection, attention, and mutual enchantment.
Men always want to be a woman’s first love – women like to be a man’s last romance.-Oscar Wilde
I told/whined to Zach that there are not enough gentlemen in the world and wished there were more. I asked him if women worldwide ask for gentlemen. “So far, yes!” he said, “I have yet to meet a lady anywhere in the world who does not desire a gentleman.”
The following short video provides a glimpse into women`s desires to have more gentlemen in the world:
Please enjoy the following interview about gentlemen, women, romance, and sex with Zacchary Falconer-Barfield.
LM: What do gentlemen look for in women?
ZFB: Everyone has different parameters, but most guys, if they’re honest with themselves, are attracted to who they’re naturally attracted to. Look within. Romance is about shared connection. A gentleman should build her self-respect. A gentleman should be able to help the woman he’s interested in.
LM: Does a gentleman understand women better?
ZFB: He should. Fundamentally, a gentleman should be a lover – gentle, kind, courteous, and a fighter in the sense of being a protector, but not an aggressor.
LM: Is there such a thing as a gentlewoman?
ZFB: We call them “ladies”, and ladies abide by the same key principles as gentlemen – respect for themselves, others, the world. Women tend to think more about how they present themselves to the world and there are more resources for them, also, their support structure is different: inclusive, conversational, and supportive. There are more ladies than there are gentlemen in the world because of this.
LM: Do you think gentlemen have more luck with women?
LM: What about sex?
ZFB: Ha! Between two consenting adults, the gentleman stops at the bedroom door.
The next article in our gentleman’s series will feature a gentleman’s attitude towards the world at large and how he fits into it.